If you have chosen to place your baby up for adoption, you are likely feeling nervous about that choice. You want your baby to have the best chance of success possible and to go to a great home where he or she is going to be loved. Your adoption agency has likely given you the profiles of several families that would love to adopt your baby, and it is important for you to choose a family with whom you are comfortable. One critical step in the process of becoming comfortable is meeting one or more of the families to confirm your choice or to decide between two families. Here are some steps for making the mother-family meeting go smoothly and provide you with the information you need to make a good decision.
1. Schedule Two Meetings
Your first step is for your or your advocate to schedule two meetings with each family that you want to meet in-person. You want to have the first meeting be in a public location, such as a coffee shop or a park so that everyone feels comfortable and at ease. You don't want to go to the home of the family right away because you want to get to know them a little bit first. Have the second meeting be scheduled in their home so that you have a chance to see where your child will be living. Getting all of this information in an orderly fashion on each family will allow you to make an informed decision about which family you choose.
2. Bring a List of Questions
You also want to bring a list of questions to ask the family. These can be general, such as about bedtimes, or more specific, such as about incomes and savings accounts. Having a list of questions will show the family that you are extremely serious about this endeavor and will make them more likely to cooperate.
3. Make Sure That All People Who Will Be Living With Your Child Will Be At the Meeting
Finally, if the couple that is going to adopt your child already has children, be sure that they are at each meeting. This will give you a chance to see how the family treats the children that they already have and to see what kind of siblings your child will grow up with. If the family lives with any other relatives or friends, such as aunts, uncles, or grandparents, make sure that you meet them too so that you can have all of the information you need to make a good decision.
For more tips, talk to an adoption agency like A Child's Dream.Share